As a professional singer, I am constantly working on my confidence and self-love. I thought that it would be amazing to share some techniques that will get you on the right path. In order to get to where you want to be, you have to check in with your mind. Your mind controls everything you do, but your mind is also the driver of your voice. If your mind isn’t where you want it to be, neither is your voice. I have to remind myself of this every day.
Most people think that one day they are just going to wake up and be super confident in your voice, because they are happy with their progress. In my experience, that almost never happens. Working towards being more confident has to happen at the same time as working on improving your voice. Remember, there is a difference between being confident and cocky – so that’s something to think about. It’s not bad to be confident. Here are four tips you can work towards to become more confident in your voice.
Confidence Tip #1 – Work on your self-talk.
Self-talk includes all the things you say to yourself in your head, the things that you mutter to yourself when no one else is listening, and especially the negative things that you say to yourself.
The thing about negative self-talk is that it’s not just that you do it once and then you’re done, right? It develops into a habit. So you do it once, and again… and all of a sudden you feel horrible about yourself, right? You hurt your own feelings by all the negative things you said to yourself.
So the next time you’re singing and you feel like you messed up somewhere, that was super easy that you shouldn’t have messed up. Instead of being like…
“Lauren, you just can’t get anything right can you”
“Oh my gosh, not again. Let me try that and I know it’s going to be better this next time”
Setting yourself on a different path is going to lead you to more success in your mind.
Another example is if you have a bad audition, or if you have a bad voice lesson and you walk out and you’re like…
“Wow, I sounded so much better at home.” “Why did you sound so bad in that voice lesson, Lauren?”, “You can do better than that, Lauren!”.
Today didn’t go as planned but i still learned what I could from that lesson.
When you start becoming more aware of your thoughts, you will start to notice-, “I just said something really mean to myself. How can I rephrase that?” A lot of times we think we can punish ourselves into getting better. It’s not sustainable and it’s not fun.
You have to be kind to yourself because your body is your instrument. Your body will talk back to you.
Confidence Tip #2 – Schedule a time into your calendar to work on your singing.
If your goal is to actually get better, grow in confidence, and to put time into it, the only way it’s going to get done is if it’s in your calendar. We are all busy, and things don’t happen unless they’re schedule.
This is what will happen week after week and over and over again if you don’t schedule in your practice session. First, you’re going to have your voice lesson and have all these notes on things to practice. Then tomorrow comes and you’re like… “Oh, you know what? I just had that voice lesson yesterday. I think I want to take a break today.” Then you take a break… the next day. “Oh, I’m having such a crazy Monday. I just, I don’t know, like when I can do anything today, I don’t even think I have time to go to the gym today. Definitely not going to have time to sing today.” Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday. “Oh my gosh. I didn’t practice all week. What am I going to do with my lesson tomorrow? This has happened to me and my students multiple times before–All because I didn’t set aside time for it when it was easy to make the decision.
I recommend for my singers that are using this as a hobby that you pick two days of the week where you’re going to get a full practice session in, which is 30 minutes to an hour for two days of the week. And then on other days of the week you can do a shorter, condensed, just vocal warm-ups for maybe 15 to 20 minutes, or you just work on one of your songs for 15 to 20 minutes.
Confidence Tip #3 – Set your goals
You absolutely need to have a goal so that you know where you are going. Otherwise “getting better at singing” it just seems like this big ambiguous thing. If you have a specific and measurable goal, you will know exactly what you are working towards and how to get there.
I’m going to learn this new song!
I want to learn this new song in two weeks, and then in a month I’m going to perform in a karaoke.
Timely goal, specific, measurable.
“I think I’m going to maybe try to get into a choir this year.”
“I want to have three auditions for local choirs by the end of the summer that I’m prepared for, that I have music for.”
Confidence Tip #4 – Work with somebody who cultivates your skill.
The two easiest ways to do this are to find a voice teacher or join a membership to work on your singing. When you work with somebody who is an expert they can help you figure everything you need out. They can guide you, give you the right music, help you set goals.
If you go the less expensive route of joining a singing membership- Mine is called Total Vocal Transformation, you will still get personalized help but also get access to the resources you need to improve your skills on your own time.
Don’t forget to sing. Don’t forget to schedule it into your calendar and your confidence is already growing. I can see it.
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